Notes on travel anxiety and how to wish someone well as they travel

Okay, fair warning. This post is not about Peru… but more travel in general. Consider that since I’m a solo-female traveler, maybe my perspective is different than some. Having folks think that my perspective is  unusual is nothing new to me. LOL

So here’s the scenario… I’m leaving on a big trip. Likely I’ve been planning it for a long time. You might not have heard about it from me on social media or even in person, and here’s why. ,,

List of common responses that push my anxiety level up when I tell people, I’m off traveling again.

• Oh, BE CAREFUL.
  No, I’m going to jump in front of a moving train. Of course, I’m going to be fucking careful, same as I am while going down the basement steps. I didn’t get this old by not being careful.
• Who are you going with?
  I’m going with me… the same person I generally travel with. Don’t worry. Me, myself and I get along quite well.
• Aren’t you afraid?
  No, I do not view our planet and the people in it as my enemies. In all my years of travel, I have never been treated unkindly. Well, there was that  screaming match with a French cabbie at midnight. I carried that whole exchange off in French… except my closing comment, “you  are a fucking asshole!” No, he didn’t take me where I wanted to go. NO, I didn’t want to get in the car with him And yes, Paris is safe to walk in at night. At least it was back then?

And the prize winner

•  Oh God, I’m terrified for you!
  Thank you for attempting to wash me- body, mind and spirit in your fear but no thank you.

Of course, not everyone’s reply to my announcement of a big trip is unacceptable but a surprising number are. So many that I often don’t announce the trip until I absolutely HAVE to so and friends/ clients don’t worry that I’m dead when I don’t return their texts or requests for an appointment.

Helpful comments include:
Sounds exciting!
Oh, I’m jealous
Send photos!
Have fun!!   my personal favorite.

The point of this blog is to suggest that when you tell someone, “Oh, be careful” you might think you’re keeping them safe. However, when you say that, what are you picturing in your mind? Likely you’re picturing some awful mess with me in the middle. Most people do not understand that thoughts have real measurable energy. So when you say, “Oh dear, please be safe” you are throwing your negative images of me all over me and my energy in the physical. 

Every day, we consciously or unconsciously set the tone for our day. We visualize happiness joy etc or we imagine the world is out to eat our lunches. I am a “visualize the best” kind of person… and so a I step out into a day, I put energy into imagining the best. Once you have dowsed me in your negative mental image, now I have to expend additional energy to scrape your slimy fear off of me. .

Multiple that times 100’s  or billions and you might start to get the idea that your negative thoughts affect others and affect our world.

Whatever time you spent imagining the worst, whether for me on my trip or for the future of our world, you are throwing that energy out to those around you and soaking yourself in it.  So lets imagine that every day you have say, 100 units of life force energy to get you thru the day. Yes, that is a made up number, there are no apps (yet) to measure such things. (grin)  If you start using your 100 units to predict that the world is full of boogie men and we’re all going to “hell in a hand basket”, that uses up units of your energy allotment for the day and surrounds your body with expectations of bad things, ie, dense energy. Heavy, dense energy makes you feel shitty.

If instead you take that daily does of life force energy and spend  the start of your day meditating on all the wonder in the world and imagining your dreams coming true,  sending love in all directions- then you also use up some of those  energy units. But you surround yourself and those around you with positive, loving energy. That that feels great to everyone. It can even help you and others draw in more life force energy.

Are you still with me? I know, this concept isn’t discussed in the morning news but I didn’t make all this up. I’ve been studying energy for most of my life. I’ve learned how to use it to help and heal- thru meditation, sound therapy and hands on healing sessions. In  my work, I try to help people release some fear, some negativity so that there is room for more energy, more light , more life force energy which is the power behind healing and a happy life.

Before you walk off in a negativity huff, these energies to help or to create fear are real and measurable since the advent of quantum physics. But I’m not here to prove anything to you. My hope is to plant a seed that might help you send someone positive energy when you wish them well.

While I’m traveling or home, I welcome you to imagine how much fun I truly am having. Your imagination won’t get close to how much fun I really do find in the world but your positive thoughts help me on my way AND they help you lighten up. Positive thinking is a power you can wield to help our world change.

Positive thinking isn’t a magic wand, one happy thought and the Porsche magically appears in your garage. But living this way, in time, does bring changes for you and the world around you.

Maybe when I come back I should start “Suni’s school of Happy.”
OR
you can just get onboard by choosing your thoughts carefully and allowing your focus to rest on things that are good, happy, healthy, fun and in this way, you can begin filling our world with the love she needs to transform.

So now I’m asking you to change the world.? Well, no, not alone. But whatever effort you make to lift the energy of the planet will affect those around you. They then affect others and so on and so on. I’m hoping you might explore positivity as an experiment to help you.

Begin watching your thoughts and note how often you are using your life force energy ( your thoughts) to imagine bad things happening. It might feel a bit overwhelming once you begin considering that always predicting the worst isn’t the only choice you have. Then… when you feel ready, try stopping the sad ending movie you’re running and pop in a happy ending. Remember your sad ending is just made up, so why not just make up something good? Play with this concept and in time, you will begin to feel different. Then, maybe just maybe, when I tell you I’m traveling, you’ll say, “Great news! You’re going have an amazing time, I just KNOW it. “

Okay, I’m done. Sorry to prattle on like this. I’m using this one personal experience to maybe paint a picture of a greater problem in our world. You are part of a planetary community. Our earth is filled with your kin- people, animals, trees, rocks… the earth herself are all part of your family.

Our society has created a belief in too many of us that the world is filled with enemies. Of course, there are people in the world that haven’t connected yet with the power of love but they all have that potential. My interactions with them in positive, loving ways might just be the energy that is needed to help them see that with love, we can all win. Becoming a generator of positivity and love might sound far-fetched but try it on… in small ways as you can. You will be surprised to feel the love that comes back.

Sending you all light and love
suni